I worry that I won’t have any friends by the time I actually send my kid off to college. My family is stuck with me and has no choice, but my friends are going to get sick of me talking about how the very idea leaves me in a cold sweat of OMG HOW IS IT ALREADY TIME FOR COLLEGE. I am much better than I used to be, but good grief, I know that I must annoy the snot out of those sweet friends.
Except for the friends that just so happen to feel the same way about my kid leaving for college. We will sob and annoy people in harmony.
I know, I know…it’s not like I won’t ever see her again. But it’s different. It just is.
A few months ago, I realized that there were so many things I wanted to do before it was time to ship her off. As a family, we collaborated. (Ok, I let them contribute to the list I already started.) And in the spirit of Life Lists and Bucket lists, and a lot of sentimental mom moments, the College Bucket List was born.
As you can see, we still have a lot to accomplish before Fall 2015. (And my kids keeps adding to the list, bless them.) But having a plan, somehow makes the fast moving clock a little easier to manage. To be honest, I don’t feel quite so helpless.
But I have to tell you, my favorite part of creating the College Bucket List is the focus on all these things we want to do was a family. We haven’t always been able to decide we want to take a trip or plan a special event and just make it happen. There were so many times, especially early on, when we had to do without or say no. I’m not complaining, that’s just how it was. But it may help explain why I have spent the past few years saying YES as much as I possibly can.
Listen, I know that the College Bucket List won’t eliminate sadness or make moving her into that dorm instantly easy. But I know that checking items off that list we made will help me face it all with a little less regret. It will, hopefully, help me remember all the amazing memories instead of focusing on all the times I couldn’t go on the school field trip or school event because I couldn’t get time off of work.
Plus, there are just some really fun things to look forward to this year. I can find myself being more excited and more proud of that amazing kid than I ever thought possible, instead of fretting about what I’m going to do when it’s finally THAT time. So here’s to saying yes more…and to putting check marks on everything on that list.